Love Liberates

One of the greatest gifts that we can give one another is the gift of liberation and freedom, and so whomever you are reading this, I want to give you that gift now:“To whom it may concern: You are free from any sense of responsibility with regards to my happiness. I am in charge of generating happiness from within my self, and I am not dependent upon you in this regard. I do not need your behavior to change for me to be happy. I do not need you to agree with me for me to be happy. The best thing you can do for me is for you to get happy- do whatever you need to do to get happy. I don’t need you to return my phone call or answer my email for me to be happy. I occasionally really, really enjoy sharing time with you, but even if our paths don’t cross again I still plan to be happy. I’ll miss you but I’ll be happy and I’ll be hoping that you’re happy, too. I love you.”

If you’re one of those people who is “needy” of others in order to be happy you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. If you’re one of those people who builds your sense of self worth on a platform of “needing to be needed” then what will happen if people stop needing you? Bummer. Emotional co-dependence is tough to navigate. Emotional independence is a better idea. Interdependence is the idea of the future, but many among us aren’t there yet so we wait.

As your consciousness expands you become more and more aware of the field of love. This is love as a noun- you can think of it as a body or an energy field that you can tune yourself to. Many people think of love as a verb, which relates to the demonstration of love or the giving and receiving of romantic love. When you’re tuned in to love as a noun, you need nothing of the dear ones that you share your life with. It doesn’t even occur to you to have expectations or apply conditions. You can just be together.

Love,Eli

“I am grateful to have been loved and to be loved now and to be able to love, because that liberates. Love liberates. It doesn’t just hold—that’s ego. Love liberates. It doesn’t bind. Love says, ‘I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you if you’re in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.'” — Dr. Maya Angelou