Criticize nothing. Praise always.
Judgment and criticism are negative (low, slow) emotional frequencies that are ultimately detrimental to each of our physical and emotional bodies and are a detriment to the collective field. I have found myself on the receiving end of judgement and criticism and I have digested the effect it has on my mind, body, and spirit. This applies to self-judgement in addition to judgement of others. It is not good and it is not necessary, and if you are really tuned in to the truth of who you are you’d feel what I am saying at your core. So why do we do it? This is a big and deep question that is not easily or succinctly answered but I’ve decided to give it a go.
Before I do, I want to suggest that “judgement” and “discernment” are very different frequencies. Discernment represents a high-vibrational feel-good emotional space. (For example, in an election, we discern that political candidate A best represents our ideals and we decide to vote for them. It is not productive, helpful, or necessary to project judgement, anger or criticism at candidate B in order to contribute to the election of candidate A). Discernment is a necessary part of navigating our life experience on Earth, but it doesn’t require or necessitate the projection of any negative energy.
Now back to the big and deep question of judgement: In my experience it is the social, cultural, and evolutionary (genetic) programming of our age that teaches us to dip into these negative frequencies. It is all rooted in fear states. We’ve not been taught to operate according to our intuition and instead our programming leads us to look outward for a way to explain and justify our experience. Rather than operating from an “inside out” mode, in order to fit in socially and culturally we’re taught to rely only on our senses of sight, hearing, smell, and touch, and trust only that which can be empirically measured with science. We’re taught that everything we experience inwardly must be attributed to/connected to an outside cause.
To ground this in more concrete, experiential terms, let’s say that your father says something to you like “you need to put your big boy pants on!” and this triggers within you a strong bio-chemical emotional response. “You are making me very angry!” You reply and a knock-down drag-out argument ensues. You feel you were judged by your father, and then you holly the judgement back and try to blame him for your emotional outburst/response. Each of you are judging, criticizing, and blaming the other for the experience you are having.There lies a skewed perspective- and one of the most detrimental skewed paradigms of the past age. The truth is that you (I, we, each of us as individuals) are responsible for creating our life experience in all moments and situations. Period. This includes the status of your emotional body and your emotional situation in any moment.
Reviewing the above scenario from this shifted perspective, we begin to understand that the initial judgement made by your father is a reflection of his own internal emotional state. He had a choice to focus positively toward you in the moment, or if that was too tough, to divert his attention and focus toward something else that was easier to feel good about. It is very likely that his judgement of you was a mirroring or a reflection of his own self-judgement whether he is consciously aware of it or not. Then similarly, you are responsible for (have sovereign control over, are entitled to) your emotional space and your response to the experience you’re having. You may choose to retaliate, volley the judgement back to him, and escalate the discord. Or you may choose to transmute the energy you’re receiving, find a way to lighten the mood, distract yourself and him with something that feels better, walk away from the argument and give yourselves time to cool down. Ultimately you may decide to love him with different boundaries in place.
The point is that it is more empowering for each of us to take responsibility for our emotional states. When you do this, you will begin to operate differently in your interactions with others. Instead of finding yourself saying “You hurt my feelings” you’ll begin to understand that “I triggered myself and felt attacked by your behavior. It is not because of you- because I am the creator of my life experience. So what do I want to learn from the experience I’m having, and what do I want to return to you and the collective field in response to what I’m learning in this moment?”Simply put- you cannot control what someone else does, or says, or how they feel, so it is not a good idea to base your well being on any expectation of them. Instead, cultivate your relationship with yourself and navigate every situation from a solid internal knowing that you are in control of you.
It is a truly empowering paradigm shift that I believe will change the world- is changing the world. The future human will surely be intimately aware of their emotional (astral) body, will be quite adept at feeling out whether the emotions they’re feeling are their own, or part of the collective emotional field, or someone else’s feelings. They will take responsibility for how they feel and generating their emotional state from the inside out, and we will be less and less interested in projecting negative energy toward anyone else for any reason. We will understand that it simply doesn’t make sense to do so. And if you’re really being honest with yourself, and you’re tuned in to the whole of who you really are, I expect you’ll agree that it never feels good. Negative energy can only lead to more negative energy, pain, suffering, and disease.
Love,
Eli
PS I don’t always get this right but I can feel it when I slip into the negative frequencies. I am always sorry and I am learning to be better.
Jared Tredway 